Many people love Christmas, but for others it can be a really tricky time: a few words for those who struggle at this time of year.

Firstly, a huge thanks just for clicking on this article. I appreciate you taking the time to do so, and first and foremost, wish you the very best.

Even in ordinary years, without all the uncertainty that still surrounds our lives, the Christmas and new year season has a habit of being a mixed one. For many, it’s a time of joy, and I’ve no wish to take away an iota of that. If that’s you: brilliant. This article isn’t really for you, but you’re very welcome to read it.

Instead, this is something for those who struggle over the festive season at the best of times. And let’s just politely say that it doesn’t appear to be the best of times.

Just a few little thoughts, and I hope they might help.

What I’ve learned over the years is that you have to approach this season the best way you can for you. That there’s levels of expectations that come with it, but if you’re not in a great place, or really not feeling it, that can be very difficult. I’d suggest it’s thus crucial to find a space for self-care. A little time out somewhere. It might be a walk, it might be switching off devices and reading a book, it might be a chat with a friend, relative or organisation.

The opposite of course is the festive season without much social contact, and that feels particularly prevalent at the moment. The advice doesn’t alter at heart, in that trying to break a cycle is hugely important. But of course, this is all easier written down than in practice.

It’s an old cliché, but it bears repeating over and over again: it is absolutely okay not to be okay.

I’d also add: it is better to admit to yourself that you’re not okay, than try and pretend otherwise.

It’s very much a season where people have a habit of putting a game face on. That also means it’s easy for others to assume that everything’s okay with you, if they just see the front that you’re putting on. I completely get not wanting to upset the metaphorical applecart over Christmas, but still: you have to find some kindness for you somewhere in the midst of it all.

I’ve been writing a post like this now for many years, right the way back to my Den Of Geek days. What I’ve learned in that time is that there’s never just one person out there struggling. That even chatting in the comments, finding a way to externalise something, can be of use. Not just to you: to others as well. No miracle cures of course, but the more of us who can puncture the pretense that everything is 100% perfect, the better I’d suggest.

You do matter. It’s a time where so many of us are feeling towards the end of our tethers. If that’s you – or even if you feel things building but you’re near the start of your tether – do try and do something about it.

The very best to you all. Take care.




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